From the Diary of a Psychologist: Insights into Intimate Relationships

"But he only wants me once every six months!"

So what? "But once in six months is too little!"

Get away from him!

"How can I leave?"

Then go. Find someone better, who desires you at least once a quarter. "No, my husband loves me, I love him. We have children... It's impossible, even though..." The French have a beautiful proverb: "While I have at least one finger - I'm a man." Do you think this saying is only about men? No, it speaks volumes about French women who know how to cherish any man. The contrary view highlights the sexual repression of our own women. After all, everyone remembers how the whole world was told in the Soviet Union: "we do not have sex" (a phrase that became famous).

Psychologists conducted a survey among couples and partners living together but unmarried. Anonymous questionnaires were distributed. Without disclosing addresses or surnames, they were asked just one question: how often do you have sex with your partner each week? The results were startling: men reported making love twice as often as women? The reason behind this discrepancy? Simple male pride. Even in anonymous surveys, men tend to overstate their prowess.

If a woman wishes to support a man's pride and masculinity, she should try to accommodate his desires as much as possible, even if she feels he doesn't deserve it or is incapable. Always treat him as "the best of the best". Criticizing his virility by calling him "impotent" could fatally wound his masculine ego, causing lasting damage to your relationship.

Women should understand that each man has his own sexual rhythm dictated by his nature and preferences. Comparing your partner to others, like your friend's seemingly insatiable husband, may not be constructive. Remember, a man cannot perform without desire; he cannot fake it like a woman.

With his mistress, driven by passion and infrequent encounters, a man might seem tireless. But with a long-term partner, he may not strive to exceed his sexual norm, preferring to be true to his natural self. It's crucial to understand his sexual patterns and adjust accordingly, whether influenced by seasons, work stress, or personal satisfaction.

If you want to test his patience, you can challenge his pride in various ways - doubt his achievements, criticize his skills, or question his judgments. Yet, tread carefully around his masculinity; a careless remark could provoke a fierce reaction.

Sexologists emphasize that a man's pride is his most sensitive spot, even more than below the belt. To nurture a fulfilling sexual relationship, observe and respect his sexual rhythms. Your understanding and support will strengthen your bond, ensuring that you remain not only his lover but also his trusted friend.

If dissatisfaction persists in your sexual life, consider consulting a professional sexologist together. There are many insightful books available today that can shed light on enhancing your intimate connection, such as A. Ilyin's "Hunting for Men" and B. De Angelis's "Secrets of Life That Every Woman Should Know" series.