Psychological Well-being

Do Not Be Mistaken Only the One Who Sleeps

Do Not Be Mistaken Only the One Who Sleeps

We all yearn for love, happiness, and the knowledge that we deserve the best. Often, this pursuit leads us to compromise ourselves, believing love must be earned through sacrifice. From childhood, we learn to renounce our desires to gain approval, a habit that follows us into adulthood. We mistakenly think others can give us happiness, only to realize later how costly it is to be "good" for everyone.

I once lived for others' approval, doing everything to earn their love. But now, I want to please myself first, to live in harmony with my deepest values. This may inconvenience others, but it's a fair price for being true to myself. I used to crave gratitude, doing everything for everyone, ashamed to say no or accept payment.

Now, I respect my boundaries and follow my feelings. Yes, it might seem selfish, but I'd rather stick to my plans than do something for someone who simply doesn’t want to lift a finger. There are exceptions, but they are conscious choices made out of love, not fear.

I used to think it was shameful to live better than others and felt it was my duty to make others happy, even at my own expense. I gave away money and possessions, refused help, and waited for compensation from the universe. But now, I boldly embrace my desires, voicing my needs without feeling guilty. I accept gifts with sincere gratitude and no sense of obligation.

I'm tired of pretending that material things don't matter to me. I want to live beautifully, surround myself with valuable items, and not worry about discounts at the grocery store. Maintaining a perfect facade was exhausting, and while people thought my life was ideal, it wasn’t. I have feelings, suffer, cry, and lose sleep just like anyone else.

I used to justify my success as mere luck. Now, I recognize it as the result of conscious choices and hard work, both external and internal. I no longer allow myself or others to discount my achievements. This is my life, and I love it as it is.

I once tried to save everyone, thinking it was my duty to make them happy. Now, I understand that change is uncomfortable and often painful, and each person must decide if they are ready for it. If they choose unhappiness, I accept it, but I choose a different path for myself.

I used to endure discomfort and push myself to do unpleasant things because "everyone does it." Now, I assert my boundaries, starting with myself. I give myself permission to make mistakes, be in awkward situations, and express my thoughts imperfectly. Only those who never try, never err.

I used to fear ending relationships and maintained connections even when they drained me. Now, I know that happy relationships are built on mutual respect and freedom. Letting go of control allows my partner to be their own person, and our relationship thrives as we both grow.

I once wanted to be right, believing that following a set of rules would protect me from life's challenges. Now, I see life's tests as opportunities for growth. I no longer seek constant praise or validation from others. Instead, I find worth within myself.

I used to think success meant constant achievement. Now, I prioritize happiness and maintaining a positive state of being. I was once preoccupied with how others perceived me. Now, I focus on self-acceptance and love.

I no longer strive to be merely good. I want to be alive—vibrant, sometimes hysterical, occasionally lazy, and a bit harsh. I want to be brilliant and proud, sometimes sad and confused. I want to be real, not just appear to be.

Every day, I choose to be alive, happy, and authentic.

The article was prepared by Lisa Cooper.